5 Reasons Why You Should Never Go Back To Someone Who’s Hurt You

Sometimes we get attracted to people who are simply bad for us. No matter how badly they treat us, we continue to fall for them. What makes these people so irresistible? Their charm continually sweeps us off our feet and their apologies and promises never stop sounding sincere. Even after you leave them, the temptation to go back to them is overwhelming. Here are the 5 biggest reasons why it is never worth returning to a toxic relationship.

1. They will never change

They promise you that they’ve changed and you tell yourself that things will be different this time around. But chances are, things will be exactly the same and you know this. People rarely change. Instead of turning a blind eye and hoping for the best, stand up for yourself and learn to say no. Your optimism will do little to change the situation and you will find yourself continually making excuses for their behaviour.

4. You will never be a priority

Your needs and feelings will always take a backseat to theirs’. Your relationship will always come second and the other person will rarely have time to ‘deal’ with you. Instead of feeling like a friend or partner; you will constantly feel like a burden instead. Your relationship will exist sorely to boost the other person’s ego and needs while you ignore your hurt feelings. They will treat you as though your needs and decisions hold no importance and do not matter at all.

3. They can never make you happy

No one can ever make you happy; you have to be happy with yourself first. That being said, if you felt anxious, sad or unimportant around someone it’s a good reason to break things off with them. You shouldn’t have to be with someone who puts you down, belittles you or treats you like a last minute option. A healthy relationship should bring joy to both people involved, rather than making you feel like you are better off alone.

4. You must learn how to move on

Going back to a relationship, no matter how bad, may seem comforting. We all associate familiarity with comfort and seek out things we are already acquainted with. However, this will create a vicious, never-ending cycle of pain and heartache. It is very easy to fall back into old habits and patterns. However, sooner or later you will realize that in order to survive, you have got to move on. The sooner you can move on, the faster you will see yourself going forward. This in turn will open up new opportunities in life. You will get to meet new people who treat you better and over time you will slowly learn to love again.

5. You deserve better

We should never settle for anything less than we deserve. After being in a toxic relationship, people often believe that they deserve being treated poorly. Furthermore, they start to blame themselves for all the troubles in their relationship. However, in order to truly break free from someone who is hurting you, you have to learn to stop blaming yourself. Try to understand that you don’t have to tolerate someone’s ill treatment of you. This will help you gain closure and make sure that next time, you will end up with someone who treats you right.

Walking away from a relationship is hard. But fighting the urge to go back to someone who has hurt you is harder for some of us. Pain and heartbreak are intimate experiences that take the time to heal. Gaining control over how you are treated is an important step when learning how to love again. It is vital to understand that in the end, your happiness is in your hands alone.