Women are often labeled as “complicated.” They are perceived as unpredictable and hard to understand. They are complex to most of the men. However, if we take a closer look, we can find out that the major problem lies with the men that they never share their thoughts regarding women. Therefore, women tend to get confused about how they should be reacting as they don’t get to know what men are thinking about them.
Men are totally complex creatures. Women often need to work hard at guessing what the men are thinking. Thus, they end up with their own assumptions which, of course, the men find not so satisfactory. What a man thinks can only be known to him. However, whatever he says does not always match with what he thinks. So many relationships could be much better if men could really express their thoughts regarding women.
But not to feel bad about this, here is a list of 13 things of what men think about women but never say. So, all the ladies out there, go through these points. I’m sure, these will help you dealing with the men from the next time and can get you rid of confusions.
1. Be clear about your intention
Guys might take it in a wrong way that girls are probably interested in him sexually. If not, it is your job to clear your intention being nice enough, and I am sure, they will respect your choice, and you for being clear enough. However, if you are sexually interested in him, give him some hints so that he can take an initiative towards it.
2. You can order desserts, it is okay
There are some girls who cannot feel comfortable to eat in front of guys. When they go on a date, they find it embarrassing to eat properly in front of men. So, they just order the salad for themselves. But please, you don’t need to starve yourself. Men like it when you eat properly, and can order any dessert too in front of them because this is a sign that you are comfortable and enjoying his company, and can totally be yourself. Remember always, being fake is not sexy at all in men’s eyes
3. Give them some hints to make the first move
No one likes to get rejected. Men also don’t want to get their feelings hurt. If you are not liking or getting attracted to a man, give him a hint about your feeling, so that he doesn’t have to get humiliated later. I’m sure, he is going to respect your feeling and decision. But don’t drag him into a situation where he will get nothing but some humiliations On the other hand, if you are really enjoying his company, and most importantly him as a person, express it so that he takes the step to the next level. If you cannot tell them, why don’t you make the first move?
4. Take the control once in a while
It is a sort of tradition that men are the bosses in the bedroom. But sometimes, they want you to takecontrol for a change and guide them giving directions about what to do which will make you happy. They might look uncomfortable or stressed out, but that is just because they are nervous that they wouldn’t be able to satisfy you. But they surely don’t mind you being the boss in the bedroom. This might bring some variations.
5. Stop complaining about your looks
For most of the men, looks always play inside their mind. If they had found you less attractive, they wouldn’t be with you in the first place. So, just stop complaining about your looks. Different men have different preferences. Some prefer women with curves, some like skinny bodies, or some may choose some athletic women. You don’t need to change yourself just to impress men. Try to love yourself first, and enhance your self-confidence. If you really need to change anything about yourself, then change for yourself, not for any man. And if anyone gives you a tough time regarding changes, just be sure, that man does not
6. Elegant outfits versus short revealing outfits
Women might think that wearing any skimpy dress would attract men more while on a date or any kind of party. However, men find it more attractive when you wear an elegant dress even with a traditional look, with your borrowed mother’s jewelry and a touch of light make up. Men don’t mind you taking the time to choose the perfect dress. Although, low-cut or short revealing party dress are just fine for them too, but they feel like they are with a proper woman, not a girl when you dress up elegantly
7. Giving men a compliment wouldn’t hurt much
Men are usually not good at expressing their feelings, but they prefer the women to be well expressive about their feelings. Though it seems like men don’t care much, but inwardly, they surely want to hear some compliments. The compliments do not need to be verbal all the time, it can be given through some gestures and body language, or even eye contacts.
8. Order your drink right, please
When couples are out on a date or anywhere else, men find it less attractive when women act clueless while ordering a drink. Seeing how a woman orders her drink, a man can clearly get the idea of the women’s characteristics; she is either a confident person or absolutely a clueless one.
9. Don’t be too hard to get
Men like women with high personality and confidence. But if you start playing to be too hard to get, and expect them to chase you too much, they are going to give up on you. Initially, men are ready to give effort to get you but one point, it becomes very frustrating and tiring for them. Don’t make them give up.
10. Looks matter but not more than self – confidence
It’s a common traditional thinking that men prefer to date beautiful women. It is true, but this beauty has no meaning at all when you don’t have the brain. According to a recent study, 78% men prefer to date women who have a high confidence in themselves. Good personality and confidence surely make a woman a lot physically sexier. So, stop complaining about your looks all the time. First gain your self -confidence.
11. Wear less makeup . Guys like it natural
It is normal for girls to wear makeup and dress up well before going out. But guys don’t find it attractive if you choose your makeup and cosmetics as your 24 hours company. Guys find it even sexier when they see you with no makeup on. Try to feel confident without wearing makeup. You are going to love yourself even more.
12. Don’t force yourself
Doing what you want is the most important thing. You don’t have to copy others. You don’t really need to participate in activities your man is involved into. If you don’t feel comfortable in doing any certain thing, just don’t do it. Learn how to say no. It is absolutely okay to be in love with the girly stuff. For example, when you see your guy watching any game with utmost enjoyment, you don’t really need to join him even if you don’t enjoy watching games. You can always start watching your favorite series or any romantic movie.
13. No need to fake; be real
It is absolutely normal to give your effort in putting up your best in front of people. This is a usual phase for women, especially during the initial stages of a relationship. However, if you always run after putting up the mask of being the best, it is going to hard enough for you to wear it off at one point, and that is when you will not be able to recognize yourself ending up with frustration. Never be afraid of you are. Remember one thing, men do not like fake women. They want to spend the life with someone who is real and confident about herself. If you are a sporty person, don’t pretend in front of your man to be someone who’s into fashion and shopping. Just be yourself. Men hate pretense. Your man is going to love you even more once he will get to know the real you.
So, these were the biggest 13 things men have in mind regarding women but never speak out. I hope, women will not find men complex and confusing anymore while dealing with them after reading the above 13 points
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